When you’re getting to know someone who’s kinky, it’s almost inevitable that at some point the conversation turns toward preferences. People will ask for a list of fetishes—things that turn you on, things you already enjoy, or things you might want to try for the first time. It’s a practical exchange, and I understand why they do it. But it’s never been how I prefer to approach a dynamic - especially a BDSM dynamic. For me, BDSM, and particularly stepping into the role of the

The Three Pillars of Kink: Physical, Sexual, and Psychological Dynamics in BDSM When people think about kink or BDSM, what often comes to...